The Unspoken Truth: Change is Inevitable

How love evolves when we do—and why that’s not a bad thing.

When we first met, we were different people. That’s how it always starts, right? Two individuals stepping into love as they are in that moment, believing this “us” will always feel the same. But life doesn’t work like that. Slowly, quietly, it reshapes you. You wake up one day and realize you’ve changed, your partner has changed, and the relationship isn’t quite what it was.

It’s not that love fades—it just transforms.

Growth Isn’t the Enemy

We’re so conditioned to fear change in relationships. People toss around words like “drifting apart” or “falling out of love,” as if evolving is a betrayal of the connection you once had. But let’s be real. None of us stay the same. Life throws us into new jobs, losses, dreams, hobbies, and challenges. It’s impossible not to be impacted by those shifts.

The tricky part isn’t the growth itself. It’s figuring out how to move forward when the relationship you’ve built suddenly feels unfamiliar.

When Love Doesn’t Fit the Same Way

I’ve had moments where I’ve looked at Blake and thought, Have we outgrown this version of us? It’s unsettling. Not because I don’t love him, but because change forces you to confront the reality that what worked before doesn’t always work forever.

The honeymoon phase is easy. Long-term love? That’s where the real work begins. It’s not just about staying together. It’s about continuing to choose each other as you both change. And that choice? It can be messy.

There are times when our differences feel more pronounced, when our paths seem to veer off in separate directions. But there’s also this beautiful opportunity to rediscover each other, to create something new that fits who we are now.

The Beauty of Rediscovery

What no one tells you about love is how many times you’ll fall in and out of sync. But every time you do, there’s a chance to come back together in a deeper, more meaningful way. It’s not about pretending nothing’s changed—it’s about leaning into the evolution.

That’s the part I find exciting. It’s in the little moments, like learning something new about each other or realizing that what used to matter doesn’t anymore. It’s in the decision to keep trying, even when it feels easier not to.

This isn’t to say it’s all rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes rediscovery feels more like work than magic. But the effort you put into finding each other again is what makes the connection so strong.